When a child spends years being the emotional support for a parent, their nervous system learns a very specific rule about love. Love starts to feel like something you secure by keeping other people stable. You read faces, soften your own needs and step into the role of comforter. Your body remembers that the safest place to be was on the giving end. As an adult that pattern often follows you into relationships. You might choose partners who need fixing or rescuing. You might feel most comfortab